How To Stop Victim Thinking in Kids
Okay – We have been struggling over here because one of my sons has a “victim” attitude. He’s only 6 years old, and already he blames everyone else for everything. Nothing is ever his fault.
As a positive, and happy person, it’s very hard for me to understand this kind of thinking. I take responsibility for my actions, choices, and my life. I find it very empowering to live this way. But my son is choosing a different thought pattern, and I have to live with it.
I was at the end of my rope today. We all had a very yummy donut for dessert. He was very upset that he could not have a second donut. I repeated several times that one donut is enough. We are not having more donuts. He was furious, shouting:
“it’s not fair! I never get what I want. I want another donut. There’s enough for all of us to have another one. Why won’t you let us? (I explained, and he replied) That’s no fair!”
After several minutes of him ranting, raving, complaining, and whining about the donuts, I calmly stood up, took the extra donuts and dropped them into the garbage.
Does this behaviour sound familiar?
I hope it’s not just my house. I am pretty sure things like this happen in every home across the world from time to time.
I am on a mission to help my son stop his victim thinking. I want him to learn that he is in control of his happiness. He needs to take responsibility for his life, his choices, and his actions.
I found this fantastic article I wanted to share here with you. It’s titled: “How to Stop Victim Thinking” and it contains some very helpful tips for parents.
What resources have you found that have helped you? If you have any ideas, inspiration, or help to share, I could really use the hints now. Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
Thanks!
Jennifer